Marriage Matters: Will You Be Committed Forever?

By LaShonda Garnes |  January 13, 2012

Will you be committed to the forever, or will you conform to the rules of society?  With divorce rates being as high as they are, society has led people to believe that divorce is okay.  Seemingly society has taken on the approach that when things get tough one can just file bankruptcy – oops, I mean for divorce and then when they are cleared they can put the next “Gucci” – sorry, I mean husband on lay-a-way and then just move on.

A statistical analysis found that a marriage starting out today has about a 41 – 43% chance of ending in divorce.  I contribute this high rate to people not looking to God for their mates. Instead, they are looking through their carnal eye, while trying to apply a biblical concept.  Because you see, marriage is a biblical concept that God ordains.  However, we have allowed the customs and standards of the world to defile marriage causing this mess we see today.

Romans 12:2 tells us, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (New Living Translation) 

So when operating and looking to marry we must work under all of God’s principles including the ability to not conform to societies principles, remembering what our Creator has commanded us to do!

Personally, before I decided to get married again, I had to take time to get to know myself. I had to make some honest self-evaluations, ask for forgiveness, show forgiveness to others, and myself and then look to building an intimate relationship with God before I could even consider being married.  I had to do some unlearning, relearning, and transforming to be a true Woman of God first.

Now as a newlywed, the joys of marriage are still upon my Husband and I, and we look for a new experience with each other daily!  When I think of the joys of being married to a man of God, I think of how God has Blessed me with a closer reflection of His image!  How could I not know that Marriage Matters!  

So again, I ask the question, are you committed to the forever or will you conform to societies’ view of marriage? I encourage you to be committed, I surely am.  I am committed to the forever and I enjoy every moment of sharing my life with a wonderful man of God!  I enjoy doing the work it takes to keep a lasting, loving, and fruitful marriage. God did all the work of captivating his spiritual eye for me, so I continue do the things that it took for me to capture his carnal eye.

Keeping him attracted to who and why he fell in love is a part of the commitment of a successful marriage. Even today I still enjoy showing my love for God to Him, studying and talking about the Word of God with him, attending and worshiping in church with him, showing my love for family, getting dolled up for him, cooking dinner, paying him compliments, supporting him, challenging him to do more, etc. 

My vow to my marriage is unwavering and it is for the FOREVER, I have been transformed and will no longer conform to society’s customs or standards, because I know that Marriage Matters!

Remember, seeking wisdom, searching your heart, and talking with God will lead you to make a wise decision before taking the step of getting married.  Marriage is a wonderful experience and when entered into with God’s blessings and guidance, the right heart and with a Christian perspective and attitude, you can truly experience the blessings of marriage.

Be Blessed!  God loves you and so do I!       

Sister LaShonda Garnes

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